Step Into What You Don’t See
A powerful simulation revealing the hidden realities of abuse – one decision at a time.
Make Your Move
Read real-life scenario cards and decide what to do next.
See the Ripple
Every choice leads to new challenges and consequences.
Share & Reflect
End with a powerful debrief that opens hearts and minds.
Because Abuse Is More Than What You See
Behind every statistic is a story of survival and silence. This simulation invites you to walk through real choices survivors face: fear, judgment, barriers, and hope. When you understand the unseen, you become part of the change.
What Participants Are Saying….
“I thought I understood domestic violence—until this training opened my eyes.”
— Community Member, Benson
“As a pastor, this changed how I listen and respond.”
— Faith Leader, Wake County
“As a college student, I realized many of my friends have been or are in abusive relationships, including myself.”
— College Student, NC
Frequently Asked Questions
How long is the training?
Most sessions run 60-90 minutes, depending on group size and discussion time. We can tailor the length for classrooms, churches, staff development sessions or community events
How many people can participate?
The simulation works best with 10–40 participants, but we can adapt it for smaller or larger groups. For large audiences, we use a “witness format,” where one person plays the survivor and others observe the unfolding choices and consequences.
What type of space is needed?
For full simulations, we recommend a room with space for 6–8 stations that participants can walk between. Each station includes scenario cards, role instructions, and short prompts. For smaller settings, a single open area is fine.
Who should attend?
- Faith leaders and clergy
- College and high school students
- Educators and social workers
- Businesses and community organizations
- Civic or service groups (Rotary, sororities, fraternities, etc.)
What will participants learn?
- Attendees leave with a deeper understanding of:
- The complex choices survivors face when seeking help
- How emotional, financial, and psychological abuse affect decision-making
- Why community response and empathy matter
- Practical ways to support survivors and connect them to help
Is this training emotional or triggering?
This is a powerful experience, and emotions can surface. Each session ends with a guided debrief and resource sharing to ensure participants leave grounded, supported, and empowered to take action.
How can I host or sponsor a training?
You can bring “What You Don’t See” to your organization, campus, or community group by completing our Host a Training form.
We also welcome sponsorships and partnerships to help expand the reach of this program across North Carolina and beyond.
Thank you for taking a moment to look closer; to see what others might overlook.
Every time someone experiences this training, empathy grows, stigma breaks, and survivors gain another ally.
Your willingness to understand is more powerful than you realize. Together, we’re building a community that doesn’t just see survivors — it stands with them.
Ready to bring “What You Don’t See” to your community?
Change begins with awareness. Host or sponsor a session today.
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